Guys Have Feelings, Too: Tips for Women
If you start a conversation with many women about how men have feelings, you may be surprised to see or hear their reaction. Some women truly do forget that their mate has feelings, too.
This may simply be because women are more adept at sharing and showing their feelings than most men are at that very same task. Growing up as young men, boys may have been taught not to cry or not to show their feelings to avoid earning the label of being a sissy or a crybaby.
It is easy for women to forget since most women grew up with the same view as men about whether or not men should show their feelings and how they should express those very same feelings.
There are ways, however, that women can remember that guys have feelings as well.
Put Yourself in His Shoes
Although you may be a dainty size five compared to his manly shoe size of 11.5, you can always put yourself in your man’s shoes, so to speak. By evaluating the situation first before you speak, you may be able to see that he has feelings that are equal to yours. Men get hurt, angry, depressed, and sad just like women do.
If you place yourself in his position for just a moment, you might find yourself saying that you would act the same way he did if you were in his shoes.
Be the Better Person
Sometimes taking the high road is the only road available. There are no lefts, rights, or detours in some cases. When you take on being the better person with your man, it is not a sign of weakness, giving in, or even giving up being right. It is a sign of understanding that there might be some truth to what he is saying, doing, or feeling.
Stop and Remember
Take some time out of each argument with your man to stop and remember that he has feelings too. Just because a man does not openly cry or does not out and out show his emotions, does not mean that he does not have them.
Pause for a moment and recognize that he may be hurt and is hiding his emotions. Stop and remember that there may be an emotion behind his anger or sullenness that he is not able to express openly. Do not always assume that he is being cold and harsh when, in fact, he could actually be very hurt inside.
Just because he does not show an emotion, does not mean that it does not exist. Take a minute and check yourself and think what he may be hiding at this moment.
Most importantly, remember that your boyfriend or husband is a human being. All human beings have emotions and feelings, and just because he may not express them as openly as a woman does, does not mean that he does not have feelings.