Five Common Communication Errors in Relationships

Most of us don’t like to admit when we’re wrong, but unfortunately, many of us trip up and make errors in our relationships with regard to communication. This isn’t just about marriage or intimate partnerships, either – relationships between family members, co-workers, and others can all fall prey to these errors. Here are some of the most common communication errors so you can try to avoid making them.

Not Stating the Obvious

You think your husband is automatically going to know he shouldn’t go out with the guys because you’ve been home sick all day caring for your baby? Do you think your wife is automatically going to know how you like your burgers? Did you think your employee would know how to handle that file you just placed in his/her hands?

It may be obvious to you, but it is not necessarily obvious to the other party. Remember, not everyone thinks like you do. And having to tell someone you’d rather they did not go out, or how you like your burger cooked, or how to handle a file is okay. It doesn’t mean the other person is incompetent; stating the obvious is just a part of good communication!

Interrupting

It’s understandable that you have a response to what the other person is saying, but interrupting is a definite communication error. Unless you have a really good reason, such as having to get something out of the stove or answering your phone at work, then let the other person have his or her say.

Not Listening

Listening is part of the back-and-forth interchange that is communication. Many people make the mistake of not listening when they are engaged in conversation. This is true in the workplace, at home, or out socializing with friends. If you don’t listen to others, then others may not listen to you. And others won’t feel like you care about what they have to say, which can make them feel as if you don’t care about them. See why it’s such a detrimental communication error in relationships?

Excessive Use of Sarcasm

Responding to friends, family, and co-workers with sarcasm can shut people down. They feel embarrassed, belittled, and/or ridiculed when you respond to what they say with sarcasm. Remember, not every conversation is a joke or opportunity to look like a big-shot.

Yelling

Yelling does not help get you point across more effectively, nor does it endear the other party to your point of view. All yelling does is make you look like your emotions are out of control. It also tends to hurt the feelings of the other party. Try not to yell; use respectful tones so you don’t make this communication error.