Top Tips for Finding Contentment in Motherhood

Finding contentment in motherhood builds on the principle of being content where you are in life in the present. That’s challenging, but not impossible. Here are some top tips for finding contentment in motherhood.

1. Keep Things in Perspective

Motherhood can sometimes seem endless. You feel like you will always have interrupted nights, always be changing diapers, always have a cluttered house. But it’s a good idea to remember that motherhood with small children is not forever. Your kids will grow up and leave your house, and you will have plenty of quiet days ahead. Too quiet, in fact…so embrace this season and realize it’s not forever.

2. Laugh!

Okay, sometimes motherhood isn’t funny. Potty accidents four times a day are not funny…unless you choose to see the humor in your situation. Try to laugh whenever you can, even about the frustrating stuff…especially about the frustrating stuff! Laughter helps you look at things a bit more lightly, and it also models healthy humor for your kids. If Mom is mad, the kids get mad too – if Mom is laughing, they will probably join in! And you’d be amazed at how much more compliant kids tend to be if they are in a happy mood.

3. Talk to Older Mothers

Whenever you get a chance, talking to experienced, older mothers can help you find contentment. These wise women have been there and done that, and they probably have learned from their mistakes. Experienced moms whose kids are grown can offer a healthy perspective and help you find contentment in the job you’re doing.

4. Look at Mothering as a Job

Really. Look at what you are doing as a job. Yes, motherhood is rightly called a “high calling” at times, but sometimes such lofty sentiments set you up for disappointment. Instead, try thinking of it as a job, and focus on the tasks and responsibilities involved as you would in the workplace. Also, have a time that your day ends and schedule in breaks just like an office job.

5. Rest

Yes, this is a tough one. Moms are often told that they need to get rest to be content. But it’s simply true that an over-tired mom is not a content one! Whether you work outside the home or not, try to have a time when your personal “door” is closed. Maybe you can only do this once or twice a week, when Dad takes over or a sitter comes. But at least once a week, it’s a good idea to make sure your day ends and you “clock out.” It’s important for your mental and physical health to be able to “turn off” for a bit on a regular basis.