Tips for Making the Holidays Special – Even When You Can’t Get Together

For many families and friends, getting everyone together for the holidays just isn’t possible. This may be due simply to distance – everyone lives too far apart – or maybe there’s been divorce and other relational difficulties that prohibit everyone getting together. And when there’s a death in the family, there tends to be a sad “hole” during the holidays where that person used to be.

The fact that not everyone can be together doesn’t mean you can’t make the holidays special for everyone, though. With a little creativity and planning, everyone in your circle of friends and family can enjoy the holidays without necessarily having to be in the same place.

Here are some tips.

1. Take Advantage of Social Media

Facebook and Skype are remarkable tools for staying in touch. For divorced parents, a video chat can let the other parent’s “presence” into their home without the awkwardness. After all, kids like to share the holidays with both parents – the fact that you’re willing to help your child connect to the other parent definitely helps your child feel special.

Family and friends who are far away can join you for holiday events, or just for an evening chat. On Facebook, you can post photos and videos for absent family members and friends to enjoy, and they can return the favor for you if possible.

2. Telephone Calls

These days, telephone calls are somewhat old-fashioned. But phone calls – especially conference calls – are still a good way to reach out and share the holiday spirit with faraway friends and family. If a group call is not an option, schedule in personal phone calls to individuals to stay in touch.

3. Personal Gifts in the Mail

Few things make absent family and friends feel more special than personal gifts. If you can’t get together, you can mail out gifts that are thoughtful. They do not have to be large; the key is for the gifts to be personal. Personalized ornaments, picture frames, and jewelry are some ideas.

4. Remember Lost Loved Ones

Rather than trying to pretend like nothing is wrong, try going ahead and actively remembering your loved one at holiday gatherings. Light a candle to remember them, set out a framed photo, and share fond memories. The younger generation often likes to hear stories about deceased relatives. This is one way to keep your loved one’s memory alive during the holidays, and help everyone feel special instead of feeling like something is missing.