Reclaiming Your Libido
Reclaiming your libido doesn’t have to be a lost cause. By taking a few steps it is possible to get your mojo back. Here are some things to try to put the va-va-voom back in the bedroom.
1. Exercise
This raises your self-esteem and makes you look and feel more attractive. Women who feel better about themselves have a tendency to want sex more.
2. Do Kegels
Kegel exercises strengthen the pelvic floor muscles, which can improve sensation and enhance sexual pleasure.
3. Eat Healthy
Proper nutrition is necessary for maintaining a good sex drive. Dieting too much can have a negative effect on your metabolism, energy level and self-esteem. Diets that are very low in fat can present a problem because a certain amount of fat is necessary for your body to produce specific hormones – in this case, testosterone which fuels sexual response and drive.
4. Get to Know Your Body
A little self-love is a great way to develop a true understanding of how certain sights, smells, tastes, textures and sounds can be arousing.
5. Communicate
Communication is vital to maintain a healthy relationship. The same holds true for your sexual relationship. Talk with your partner about what feels good and what arouses you. Remember, if you don’t ask – you don’t get. Invite your partner to share with you.
6. Limit Alcohol Consumption
Alcohol has a depressing effect on your body. Okay, yes, a couple of drinks can get you in the mood, but too many can send your desire to bed for the night. So, drink responsibly or don’t drink at all. You will be healthier for it.
7. Simple Is Sexy
While wearing lingerie can be sexy, it can get in the way and just complicate things. That is a huge mood killer. Instead wear something from your closet, a blouse or jacket that feels good against your skin. You will get a thrill remembering all the naughty things you’ve done wearing it.
8. Massage
At the end of the day, taking some time out to give each other a massage can help get you both in the mood. Light some scented candles, use warm scented oils and work up your desire by rubbing out the tension and stress of the day. Turn that bad day in to something good for you both.
9. Stop Smoking
Smoking not only leaves your teeth brown, your breath smelling like an ashtray, it also narrows the blood vessels to your genitals which decreases your sex drive.
10. Consult Your Doctor
If you feel as if nothing you are doing is helping to regain your libido, then perhaps it may be necessary to talk with your doctor about other types of treatment.
Women do a lot of juggling. We have work, kids, taking care of the home and we are often also expected to be total sex-kittens. Unfortunately there isn’t a magic fix for getting your groove back. The key is – you have to want it back and that takes work and patience.